Summary

For most adults, backtalk from children is one of the most irritating things that they encounter. To make matters worse, we agree that there is simply no justification for it. However, how we instinctively handle this issue with reprimands, swats and lectures, unfortunately is likely to encourage more of the same. So, how do we handle backtalk?

In the "full text" version of our reply, you will find seven areas that need special attention as you address this thorny issue. You will find that we adults often unconsciously set the stage for disrespectful backtalk in the way we respond to the children in our lives. In the end, however, you will find that when you finally establish an atmosphere of respect in your environment, whether at home or in the classroom, you will find that backtalk somehow just melts away.

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The alarm in your question is obvious. Life can become so very complicated when the normal result of sex produces a child, not to mention the short and long-term psychological consequences of early sex. What you obviously need that you have not yet found is a way to truly communicate with your daughter.

First, however, you need to understand what does not motivate a young person to restrain sexual passions. You have already experienced some of those, such as pure logic, fear and lectures. What you now need to understand is what does motivate a young person to stand strong against the majority that is out there treating sex as a game, or toy. Those factors include (but are not limited to) factors such as an active, purposeful lifestyle and a trusting relationship with her father or significant other nurturing father figure.

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Kids delay getting ready for a number of reasons. However, the bottom line when that becomes a habit is that you have indirectly taught that you will make sure they get ready, even though your methods include constant reminders, nagging and yelling. What you need to do is help them experience the logical and natural consequences of being unprepared. In other words, you need to allow them to experience the result of their own procrastination.

We have a great plan for that. It's called "taking the kids 'as is'. We explain it in the "full text" version of this reply...

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As most parents know, children who wake up during the night can be the cause for a lot of lost sleep in adults. When that becomes a habit, there is truly cause for concern. What we need is a tool or procedure that helps the child change its subconscious or unconscious mind in gentle, non-threatening ways.

We have developed such a tool; it's called O.T.R., or Off-Trauma Retracking. It consists of a specific question that the adult asks the child on a regular basis (hourly for several days) and a specific answer that the child gives back to the adult. Each cycle takes about 10 seconds, which is why we refer to this procedure as "Ten Seconds that Last A Lifetime." Where it has been applied correctly, we have experienced 100% effectiveness.

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