Without realizing it, we create a fear of telling the truth by lecturing and punishing a child for lying. We actually encourage behavior we are trying to discourage when we see a child doing something wrong by telling the child what NOT to do. We scold a child for wrongdoing but his receptors are shut down because he is protecting himself, so we waste our breath.

Fact is, research continues to confirm that negative guidance and punishment are actually poor teachers. Essentially, they direct a child's behavior from a foundation of fear, rather than from a desire to do something better.

Our culture is so bombarded with negative messages that learning positive ways of thinking and speaking is like learning a whole new language -- especially for parents. Every day, in spite of our best intentions, we use negative guidance with words like, "No!" or "Not until..." or "Do you want to get hurt?" or "Don't forget..." when we could have said, "Yes..." or "After..." or "What did I say?" or "Remember..."

So, how do we learn to teach our children with positive language? Direction With Dignity is a coordinated system of communication that is both technically sound and user friendly. It offers practical methods of positive communication that, when applied correctly, will produce the results you are seeking.