About DWD

What does DWD teach?

We explain over 40 positive, low-stress child management strategies aimed at helping children appropriately manage their own behaviors. These strategies (we call them "tools") are designed to help a child develop from the inside out rather than the other way around.

What is unique about DWD or, how does it differ from other child management courses on the market?

DWD establishes as its foundation a group of easy-to-use communication strategies, based on a thoroughly positive approach. Users of the DWD approach tell us that the big difference is the user-oriented focus of the system. In other words, since these approaches come out of practical, daily application, they are more user-friendly and effective than most other approaches that tend to be more theoretical in nature. In addition, DWD explains how to use these tools and why they work so well when applied correctly.

What is the DWD position on corporal punishment (physical discipline)?

First, it is important to understand that DWD is, at its core, a positive, non-punitive system of communication. Therefore, punishment, whether physical or psychological, is not part of its operation. However, the DWD approach views spanking and other forms of physical motivation as a desperate attempt to communicate with children when their parents or other supervising adults have exhausted other options. The mission of the DWD approach is to provide adults with more options for communication. The bottom line is that, once the adult has communicated effectively with a child, punishment or other negative motivation is no longer relevant.

Do you have a referral list of people who have taken this course?

Our office can arrange contact with DWD alumni. Send us your request by email or call the DWD registration and referral line at (913) 268-0877.

About The Think Space

"What is the basic mission of The Think Space?"

The basic mission of The Think Space is to provide both children and adults with a safe and effective guidance tool that helps a child understand what TO do in the future, not simply what NOT to do. Furthermore, The Think Space is a truly practical and effective way to help children build future behavior on a foundation of positive values rather than on the fear of consequences, penalties or punishments.

"How early can you start using The Think Space?"

We suggest starting this exercise at 18 months for "draining" inappropriate behavior. Developmentally, beginning any earlier may not be effective, possibly, even harmful. At about 2.5 years, you may introduce the positive mental planning phase of The Think Space.

"Is this just another variation on the Time-Out theme?"

No, it's as different as night is from day. We understand the rising distaste for Time-Out among some parents and childcare providers, since it is often used as punishment without accountability. In fact, it was our concern over our own use of Time-Out that motivated us to seek other more appropriate forms of child guidance. While this approach temporarily removes a child from the scene of conflict or other inappropriate behavior, the purpose of removal and the way it operates is completely different; and so is the outcome!

"How does punishment figure into the use of The Think Space?"

First, it is important to understand that The Think Space is, at its core, a positive, non-punitive system of communication and motivation. Therefore, punishment, whether physical or psychological, is not part of its operation.

"How long should a child stay in The Think Space?"

The amount of time spent in The Think Space is determined by the child. An attitude adjustment can require just a few seconds while a serious temper tantrum can last several minutes. Ultimately, you want a child to return as quickly as possible to apply the new attitude or behavior.