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Shopping Cart : View/Edit Shopping Cart : Begin Checkout Advice ArchivesIs there anything wrong with slapping my child occasionally?SummaryIt might not, but it could, so why risk it? However, the bigger question is why do you want to hit a child at all? What are you teaching that child when you hit him? Is he learning to stop doing what is displeasing you, or is he learning that hitting is what you do when someone does something that he doesn't like? Do you really think that causing a child pain is the best way to teach him something, or are you just out of options? Speaking of options, how about equipping yourself with tools of positive management.and then commit yourself to using them? It is our firm belief that most adults hit children out of desperation or frustration more than out of a conviction that corporal punishment is what is best for that child. As a matter of fact, our last 20 years of professional childcare is an ongoing demonstration that proves beyond any doubt that positive management is superior to negative management.and is better for the child. For the full text of this discussion, click here... Read full text: Is there anything wrong with slapping my child occasionally? How do I get my child to listen?I am having a big problem with my son in that he will not listen to me or to his teachers. How can I teach my son to listen? SummaryChildren ignore the instructions of their adult supervisors for many reasons. However, when you boil them down, there are only a few general reasons that they fail to listen: high among those reasons are the Entertainment Effect, Peer Pressure and Bio-Chemical Complications such as ADD & ADHD, but also including hearing and other sensory or cognitive limitations. However, since the vast majority of children fit into three areas mentioned above, we will limit this discussion to those three general categories. For a fuller discussion of those possibilities, please click here... How do I deal with "new arrival rivalry"?We have a new baby in the house and our 5-year-old seems to do everything he can think of to hurt or bother his new sister. Besides being dangerous for the baby, I'm concerned about what our older child is showing with his behavior. What can we do? SummaryFor a first child to feel a sense of competition when a new child comes into the family is quite normal. All of a sudden, the first child has to share almost everything.most importantly his mommy and daddy! So, the question becomes, "How do you go about reducing that sense of competition and displacement?" There are a lot of things that can and should be done. We can't be exhaustive here, but we can give you a plan that covers most of the bases. These include such things as helping hands, imposed concessions, life rhythm, special times and conflict intervention. Once on the right track, you will find other things that reduce stress and still keep you in command of your family's safety and well being. The most important thing, however, is that you cultivate a culture of teamwork and gratitude. Once that is in place, most of the problems you are seeing will evaporate. For the full text of our response, click here... How do I keep my child from biting?SummaryWe know of no "sure cure" for biting. However, we have found some things that work really well. In fact, the success rate of what we share here is 100% in our experience. We hope the same for you. In this response, we first discuss the need to understand the motivations behind the child's biting. Reduced to their bare bones, biting is almost always about power - the power to solve a perceived problem. Next, we discuss the healing process; in other words, how to involve the biter in the healing of the bitten child. Finally, we explain O.T.R., perhaps the most effective tool that we have ever developed for helping a child truly embrace an change of attitude about the proper use of his teeth. For the full text of this discussion, click here... How do I handle "the unwelcome stepmother" challenge?SummaryA merged household with the conditions you describe is a ready-made recipe for stress at best and disaster at worst. You are wise in voicing your concerns, because long-term damage is not only possible; it's probable.unless the members of your family (including you and your fiancé) quickly change the way you communicate with and correct one another. However, simply deciding to do things better will not be enough in your case. The seven members of your family represent many conflicting ideas about life and carry a lot emotional luggage. The good news is that nothing is impossible under the right conditions. The hard news is that it will take a definite plan that is carefully and patiently carried out before much will change. We detail such a plan in the full-text version of this reply. To see the full text of our reply, please click here... Read full text: How do I handle "the unwelcome stepmother" challenge? |
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