The Think Space

The Think Space is a plan to help children take responsibility for their own behavioral choices while offering adults a safe and responsible way to remove themselves from the emotional loop of misbehavior.

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QuikTips is a series of short, practical articles that feature easy-to-use tools for low-stress child management.

Bundled in small packets, and arranged by topic for easy reference.

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Everything you say to a child either builds him up or tears him down.
There is no middle ground.

- Carolyn Richert

What are QuikTips?

QuikTips is a series of short, practical articles, written by Calvin and Carolyn Richert, that feature easy-to-use tools for low-stress child management.

All techniques presented meet strict scientific and ethical guidelines and have been carefully "road-tested" for effectiveness in everyday use. Every method is thoroughly positive and, when used as intended, can help children develop skills of self-management, confidence, empathy and the many other positive character qualities needed in becoming well-adjusted, productive adults.

Also available for purchase: QuikTips Bundles are pre-printed small packets, arranged by topic for easy reference.

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Very clearly, you explain to your six-year-old, Chad, why his homework has to be finished before he may watch TV. You finish your decree with an emphatic, "DO YOU UNDERSTAND?"

Do You Understand?

You mean well. But STOP: ask yourself, "Do you know what Chad understands? " How do you know?

How about replacing, "Do you understand?" with, "What are you going to do?"

You see, we tend to assume that our children are listening and understanding when we talk. That's when we use expressions like, "Do you understand?", "OK?", "Alright?", etc.

Later, when their actions show that they weren't really paying attention, we respond with frustration . even anger. Then comes the old, "How many times do I have to tell you . (whatever)!"

As our children's first and primary teachers, we need to pay attention to how children learn. You don't have to be trained teacher to realize that your child's "OK" doesn't necessarily mean that he is understanding or agreeing with you.

That's why we recommend a follow-up question that requires feedback.

Do You Understand?
  • First, it's important for you to see how well you have communicated . or whether you have communicated at all.
  • Second, it is a well-known fact that a child's verbal response helps him to clarify his understanding. After all, it is quite possible for a child to appear to be listening when his brain is nowhere near yours!
  • Third, the follow-through factor kicks in much more readily when a child is asked to review his understanding of what is expected of him. In the end, his sense of accomplishment is raised and his character grows another notch.
  • On the other hand, if you see that you haven't communicated well, you have a chance to repeat your instruction, or approach the issue from another angle. In that way, you reduce frustration and confrontation down the road.

So, what are you going to say immediately after asking a child to do something? The expression is, "WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO?" It's quite simple, but immensely important and infinitely better than "Do you understand?" OK?!?

 

 

Our MISSION

To train adults in the use of positive guidance tools that encourage the inner growth of children.

Learning to communicate with and motivate children to make decisions with their heads and hearts.

Our LOGO

The Heart represents the inner child, which is our primary focus.

DWD Logo - Heart with Arrow

The Arrow shows the outward flow of a balanced child’s energy & awareness.

Our TAG LINE

"... from the inside out" defines the foundation of true character development.

OUTSIDE-IN is how almost all adults teach children until they learn the skills of DWD.

Our FOCUS

  • To help children balance the ‘all about me’ syndrome of childhood.
  • To raise children to be authentic at their core instead of superficial.
  • To guide children to use respect as their basis of interaction with others.